Listening to Lord Jamar on VladTV exploring the everlasting nonsense about Dark skin women against light skin females was mind blowing. 

Lord Jamar agreed that white women or light skin young females are preferred by black men and that “it says something psychological about them”(ref.1).  
This type of dating preference is a sort of discrimination and “creates resentment for the ones” who are constantly rejected by black men. Lord Jamar adds that this is the direct consequence of black men’s perception of beauty that has been corrupted (ref.1).


If we further dismantle the psychological patterns that put light skin women on the forefront of black men preference, it is realistic to say that no matter what the white or light skin female brings on the table, financially, on an education level, mentally, spiritually and culturally she still is the prize to go for in the eyes of a black man. 

Therefore , if she (the light skin/ white female) behaves like an uneducated, mean, narcissistic, dishonest, low life human being who will never change her ways, black men are still going to think that light skin women boost their ego. An ego that is craving for acceptance from the white supremacists. 

Dr Joy Degruy says that there is no way to come out of 400 years of slavery without deep emotional and psychological scars that need to be healed for both black men and females (2. Dr. Joy DeGruy Leary: Post Traumatic Slave Disorder, 2016). 

But how can black women accept and forgive those who abused and are still abusing them physically, psychologically and mentally?  

So maybe, just maybe, black women should wake up and love themselves even more than they already do. 

Indeed, black women do not need a black male or any man for that matter to feel good about themselves. 
We do not need Snoop Dogg to tell us that we have to protect our viginas until we meet the “right” person 

( , n.d.). As if Mr. Right can be found at the shop next door !!!


Black females do not need to be in overly sexualised video clips which have a propaganda undertone that dismisses black females ability to love and to be loved (4., n.d.). 

It seems that humanity forgot that Black women were considered as goddesses in Ancient Egypt and had access to political and spiritual powers which included the command of an army. I am not talking about Nefertiti (as many people love her hat and only see this character as a sign of power). I am referring to Hatshepsut who was a Pharaoh who possessed all the political powers on her OWN (5. Tyldesley, J. (2018)!!!   

To get further into inspirational facts, in the indigenous cultures, women were  “builders, warriors, farmers, and craftswomen. Their strength was essential to the survival of the tribes”(, n.d.).

NEVER forget that without a black women there won’t be any black men because we gave birth to you !!! 

This post is not for you, Black men though! But for my sisters who think that there is something wrong with them. 

Be proud!!!

If you want to know more about Hatshepsut have a look at the below documentaries: 

Egypt’s Dark Age: To The Brink Of Annihilation | Immortal Egypt | Odyssey – YouTube (@38 min – Hatshepsut is mentioned) 

Hatshepsut: Secrets of Egypt’s Lost Queen – YouTube ( I found the documentary not as interesting as the first because of the way it has been directed. But there are not so many chronicles done about Hatshepsut on Youtube)  

Finally, a big thank you to Harriet for her well put together video about the subject which you must watch :  Chris Brown and the Men Who Think We’re Ugly (How Black Men Benefit from Colorism) – YouTube) , the same goes for Adella Afadi  Let’s Talk Beauty Standards – YouTube , Lexus Exodus : The Genocide of Black Women w/ @BlackFemicideAmerica – YouTube, Intelexual Media: Black Femicide and Intimate Partner Violence: A History – YouTube, Tee Noir : The Market of Humiliating Black Women – YouTube and Mahogani Pink : The False Promise of Black Love (Part 1) – YouTube




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3. (n.d.). Snoop Dogg Doesn’t Like “WAP.” [online] Available at: [Accessed 23 Nov. 2021]. (n.d.). Confessions of A Video Vixen: The Rise and Fall of an Era. [online] Available at: [Accessed 6 Dec. 2021].

5. Tyldesley, J. (2018). Hatshepsut | Biography, Reign, & Facts. In: Encyclopædia Britannica. [online] Available at:

6. (n.d.). The important role of Native American women. [online] Available at: